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February 1, 2023
Welcome to February! How has the start to your year been? How are you doing?...Really?
I know for many of you, January has been a turbulent and anxiety-producing start to the year. Especially for those of you already stretched to ββthe Nth degree, the current economic climate, the recent layoffs throughout the tech sector, the atmospheric rivers and seemingly endless flus have felt derailing or even crippling.
Perhaps you started the year excited and ready to turn over a new leaf, to honor your desires, to invest in yourself, and go after your vision for the year with intention. And then, whammy! Life happened. All of a sudden you were knocked off your center and thrown from that new year energy back into a place of fear and self-doubt.
If this sounds familiar, I just want you to know you’re not alone. This is exactly what happened for me too at the start of 2023. I selected my guiding word for the year to be “EASE,” as I was desiring a year of stability, spaciousness, and flow. And then just over a week into the new year, my husband and I learned that we were losing our visa and would need to make an unexpected international move from London back to the States.
We did not see that coming. That was not the plan! And if I’m totally honest, there was a bit of “Are you kidding me? Whyyyyy? But didn’t I ask for ease?? Can’t things just be easy and stable for once?!”
While at first I felt resistance (and a bit of self-pity!), being a student of this work, I knew the only way out was through. So I chose to let myself feel the feelings. I made space for all of the grief, anxiety, confusion, resentment, and uncertainty. I processed, expressed, and reached out to my own coach and loved ones for support. I let the new reality land and waited to see what it was there to teach me. What was available for me underneath the initial shock and resistance?
It soon became evident to me that ease does not mean easy. It means releasing attachment to the need for control. It means surrendering to what is, rather than trying to force what I thought it should be. It means allowing myself to see the potential for growth amidst the uncertainty. It means trusting and co-creating with the universe based on what’s present, rather than white-knuckling the future I had planned on.
I realized that I can still choose a state of ease, even when things are far from easy. With that shift, I soon reached a place where I became curious about what other destinations this path could take me to. Perhaps this next chapter, while not as anticipated, could be better than expected? There was new space to begin to dream, vision, and play with possibility. And now, as I sit here writing this newsletter, I can already see why essentially getting deported might just be what my husband and I needed :)
So if this year hasn’t started off the way you were expecting either or you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, I encourage you to ask yourself, are you open to the idea that the universe has a better plan for you than you can conceive of? What could the gift be for you within this muck? How can what might initially appear as a setback become the very thing that knocks you onto a better path? How can you choose ease, even when things are anything but easy? How can you turn a breakdown into a breakthrough?
If that all sounds easier said than done and your soul is craving some extra support, guidance and nurturance to make lemonade out of these lemons on this very exciting and bumpy road called life, I’m happy to share that I have two coaching spots opening up this month!
Some of my other clients below (*not their real names) have been where you are, where life felt taxing and unsustainable and chose to invest in themselves only to create the following results…
- Claire was crippled by imposter syndrome and was constantly busy striving and doing, trying to prove her worthiness at work. She felt unable to relax and at the verge of burnout, she chose to begin coaching. After just three months, she rewired her nervous system and core belief from “I’m not smart enough, I am not enough” to “I know my worth and am clear on my contribution.” She learned how to show up with more ease at work as well as define herself apart from her career. She now spends her weekends with her laptop closed, allowing plenty of space for rest, joy, and connection (not to mention receiving a stellar performance review!)
- Sasha had been a people pleaser and “perfect” her whole life, keeping others happy and constantly performing at the expense of her own peace and well-being. Exhausted from the constant tap dancing, Sasha built an awareness of the drivers behind these patterns and was able to heal some deep, repressed wounds from her family of origin. She began to reconnect with her authenticity, established healthy boundaries and self-care practices, and was able to spend the holidays with her family and truly enjoy it! She finally feels like she can show up as her true, magnetic self.
- Viktoria knew her role no longer gave her the energy it once did, but felt lucky to have a job with the security it provided. She’d dreamt of pursuing a creative side hustle for a while, but felt crippled by the fear of failure and what others might think if she attempted an entrepreneurial endeavor. Through working together, she is now turning that dream into a real business, and channeling the creative, enlivening energy it provides her with back into every area of her life.
If January and these clients have taught me anything, it’s that life will happen and things will rarely feel “easy.” And yet, when things feel most uncertain is usually when we could use support and a shift in perspective the most. Chaos has a way of shaking up the status quo and allowing us to find a new way forward. If we can choose to flow instead of push, we can turn life’s challenges into something far better than we could have previously imagined.
So if you’re ready to invest in yourself like these amazing women and move from a place of contraction to expansion, simply reply to this email or book a 30 minute connection call with me HERE.
Why wait?
With you on the journey,
Emma x
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